While it can be hard to let go of any relationship, sometimes it is the necessary thing to do. I am a firm believer that you should work out any problems that you might have in any relationship, unless you are being emoitionally or physically abused. However, it takes two people that are willing to work at the relationshio and both sides need to give and take. One sided relationships NEVER work out.
As I write this I am extremley frustrated with a woman that I have had in and out of my life for the last 13 years. My daughter and her son were on the same soccer team when they were 3, then going to elementry school, and now high school together. And of course along the way they liked eachother at times.
It seems that as soon as her son doesn't get what he wants she starts an emotional and verbal attack against me. While I feel I have tried to do everything I can to be friends with this woman it seems that it just isn't in the cards.
After being deleted from her facebook account I asked her if it was a glitch or if she deleted me and this was the response that I got:
Me: Leann Owens Welton December 23 at 2:48pm
I thought I would ask before I assume anything did you delete me from facebook or was it a facebook glitch?
Her response: Leann December 23 at 6:44pm Report
WOW, that just happened this morning, it was a glitch lost a few friends, you caught that quick. I will say though with the timing of the two negative posts _______ just showed me on yours about the same time you messaged me earlier maybe it's best the glitch happened. IAs this is the exact thing I told you I won't deal with while we have everything else going on with ________. (her childs name goes here but will not post)
Me: Leann Owens Welton December 23 at 8:53pm
Ok just checking. Those negative posts were not directed at you. So please don't assume. So while I still consider you a friend I hope that you still consider me one too. The post about the childlike behavior was something I saw happen at the mall today while I was out and was absolutly shocking. I guess it's that time of year for people to act immature and boy I saw it today. With that being said I totally understand why you don't want drama, neither do I. I have enough crap going on myself.
I wish nothing more than happiness with you and your family and have no ill feelings.
Thanks for the response.
Her response: December 26 at 6:07pm Report
LOL, funny so now _______ comes in and tells me "Mom I've been blocked from _____ and Leann's FB pages", are we playing a game now? If so we lose because we don't define our friendships based on the goings on on Facebook. I wasn't even going to say anything but, ________ knows you don't like him, you have confided a lot in _______ and I about other people and how you feel about them, apparently you've been doing the same about us to others so we hear. That's OK we would rather know how you truely feel. If as I hear you feel about my son is true delete him, don't play games.
Here I thought I was doing all I could to be a good friend to you and your family, I'm assuming now I was wrong and it wasn't enough, as soon as the kids had an issue you started talking about us? Just like you've done to us with (names ommited), I don't understand I believed you truely cared for _______ and understood all we are going through with him. You had us convinced we could trust you with our feelings and our son, all the time you were talking behind our backs to other people because the kids had a disagreement.
_______ loves ______ as a friend he always has, and he misses her when the drama happens, I am committed to supporting any friendship they choose to have and all I ask is that you do the same.
I know you have a lot going on, I appologize _______ and I have not lived up to your expectations, and that I have done something in this friendship for you to feel so badly about me and my son more so my son, Leann he's a good kid despite what you seem to think. I hope all goes well for you with _____ and that one day all wounds can heal and the kids can move on and be life long friends.
Is it just me or does there seem to be a lot more to this? She seems to have a lot of built up annimosity towards me. While I want to respond because that is what we humans like to do when we feel attacked I think I will just let it go. Hard? YES!! I honestly wanted to be this womans friend. But I cannot and will not be verbally attatcked and brow beat anymore.
So this is a relationship that I am going to need to heal from. It will be hard because my daughter will still be in school with this womans son, but I cannot continue down the path of destruction.
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